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Planner or Participant?

Tis the Season….for those good ol’ control issues to flair up again.  Holiday festivities equal events where family gathers together, which means a variety of personal agendas and various power struggles.  Heck, you don’t even need the holidays to witness this; if you look carefully, these types of interactions are all around us.  How can we stay sane in the midst of all this hankering for control?  My oldest and dearest friend has talked me off the ledge numerous times with an interesting technique.  See if it might work for you.

My best friend sums it up like this, “You are either the Planner or the Participant.”  As the Planner, you take charge, figure it out, make the plans, have the control.  As the Participant, you go along; you are agreeable to what the Planner has worked out.  No fighting for the reins – you sit down, shut up and let the Planner steer the wagon.

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5 Simple Steps to Stress-Free Holidays

I woke up in the middle of the night in a panic.  And no, it wasn’t just because I was coughing away due to this lovely cold I have now gotten from my dear family members. (Pass around the hugs and kisses all you want, but keep the germs to yourself!  This is another reason we are all getting flu shots this year).  It wasn’t a fever, however, that caused me to break out in a sweat – it was tidbits of an ongoing conversation my kids have been having lately that are now floating around in my head: what's on their Christmas lists.  My initial reaction had been one of happiness and relief; their lists were short, simple and not at all filled (yet) with the gimmies and holiday wants (or the Wii)!  But last night in my dreamland state, reality hit me like a wake-up call: oh no! the holidays are only 10 weeks away!

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