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Aftermath of a Crisis

“I don’t love you anymore

I don’t think I ever did…”

–  from Eurythmics “Don’t Ask Me Why”

I have always loved that part in the Eurythmics song that got massive airplay back in the 90’s on radio stations everywhere.   It was such an “in your face” kind of comment, the type someone who is REALLY hurting says, and I had been that person really hurting from a relationship that had crashed and burned, so yeah, I felt I could relate.  Annie Lennox always sang it so well, with just the right amount of emotion and scorn, as only a person who had really experienced it could do.  I remember feeling as if she and I were soul sisters of sorts, honorary members of the same club.

Those two lines popped in my head again as I read “This is Not the Story You Think It Is” – a novel written by a mom of 2 that I …

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Late to the Party – Again

Two of my favoritesMy kids are not the only ones using the two-weeks off during Winter Break to stretch the structure of our normal routine. Staying up way too late, lounging around in pajamas far too long, enjoying way too many sweets and treats.  School starts back up on Monday and then we’ll be back to the daily grindstone reality.  And while I look forward to the old routine in many ways, I am savoring actually having had the time to make a dent in the stack of books piled up on my nightstand.  Two of those books in particular were outstanding….and yes, I know I’m a little late in saying it, but if by some chance you haven’t read these – you must.

The Help was called the best book of 2009.  Highly acclaimed, a NY Times Bestseller and recommended by practically every bookstore in America. I told everyone about it – just off the buzz I was hearing.  Friends would …

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Lotus and the Golden Pearl – teaching peace to kids


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If there is one thing I’m always in search of (during the holiday season or just throughout the year) it is peace.  Peace in my head, peace in my home, peace among my children – I want it any and every way I can get it.  One of my biggest wishes is for my children to know of the peace I search for.  Best case would be leading by example, but it doesn’t always work that way for me.  So when this Zen Mama Wannabe finds a tool to help me with this, I want to shout it from the mountain tops – or at least as far as my little voice can carry.

In this particular case, the tool I found is a book – one that helps teach lessons without kids even realizing it.  It’s called Lotus and the Golden Pearl – A Young Girl’s Peace Odyssey and it’s an easy to read …

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Labor Day – No School, but Why??

World Holidays Ok, I said to my kids as I tucked them into bed tonight.  No school tomorrow – it’s Labor Day. Do you know what Labor Day is all about or why we celebrate it? My son guessed it was for the people that fought in the war, then realized he was thinking of Memorial Day. As I saw the blank expressions on their faces, I knew I needed to rectify this straightaway. After all, if you get a day off of school (or work) I think it is important that you know why!

I was about to tell them all about this holiday celebrated on the first Monday of every September, but then I paused.  Was I really sure I knew what I was talking about?  I mean, I thought I knew…..but I’ve got a child (as some of you may relate to) who takes what is told and casts it in stone.  You don’t want to risk telling …

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Average?? or Extraordinary??

LightingTheirFireI am not interested in being average. For myself or my kids.  Children first come us as these beautiful souls.  I believe our job is to help guide, shape, and encourage them to live up to their full potential as extraordinary human beings.   Just as I am always working to better myself, I am also constantly working on how I can help my kids become better too.  I don’t mean in sports or academic subjects – I am talking about something much bigger and grander (and more important, in my view) – LIFE.

In Life, I want my kids to choose to be kind.  To always have good manners and a fire in their belly to keep learning more.  I want my kids to soar.  To figure out what is to be their contribution to the world – and then make it.  I am not interested in them being just like all the others.  I see what the pack is …

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An Agreement to be Kind

The Four AgreementsMy older child is quick to point out my younger one’s mistakes.  Any time.  Every time.  All the time.  Needless to say it only adds fuel to the bickering fire and my fire extinguisher has been working overtime this summer.  I have had enough.  So in the calmest, non-yelling voice this Zen Mama Wannabe has when I feel my buttons being pushed, I announce:

You know, Wayne Dyer talks about when you have a choice to be right or be kind, choose being kind.

My son actually stops talking to listen.  He’s interested in Dr. Dyer.  I would have never thought to bring him up because, well, my son is 8.  It just never occurred to me.  But his 2nd grade teacher last year showed me a world of possibilities when she introduced the class to The Four Agreements.

Talking to 7 and 8 year olds about The Four Agreements?  I know adults who have never …

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The Fuss about Twilight

TwilightOk, I’m a little late to the party. How could one not notice all the Twilight hoopla – because it’s EVERYWHERE.  The books, the movie, the stars….it’s been everywhere I’ve turned.  But, up until now, I have simply just turned away.  I dismissed the Twilight series movement as a teen thing (would someone ever be so blithe about Harry Potter?? I now see the errors of my way).  But last week I broke down did it – I picked up the book at Barnes & Noble and said those 8 little words, “I wonder what all the fuss is about.”  Then, I went one step further: I bought it and brought it home to read.  May I just say my life hasn’t been the same since!

I had no idea what to expect, other than something about vampires.  I know vampires are hip – the “in” thing – but I am so not a vampire type person.  Probably …

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Books to Shake Off that June Gloom

If you are looking for some fun summer reading (Chick Lit type stuff – sorry guys) I have two recommendations for you right off the bat.  Both have been out for a couple years – the good news being they are in paperback now (that’s right – no excuse for you not to get a copy if by chance you haven’t read them).  So if you haven’t yet had the pleasure and you like this genre of books (and I do hate how some people turn up their noses at the mere thought, as if the term “Chick Lit” is so offensive – call it Light Summer Reading if it makes you feel better) then these are a couple you don’t want to miss. 

They are easy-to-read, entertaining stories that pull you along all the way through – perfect for an afternoon stretched out in the sun (does anyone with kids do that anymore??) or for one …

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Three Cups of Tea – Required Reading for Everyone

3CupsMy daughter takes a yoga class at her preschool once a week (hey – that’s what I need – hmm, what’s wrong with this picture??). One day her yoga teacher was telling the kids about India and showed them a picture of the Himalayas.  My daughter piped in with how the mountains looked like K2.  Her yoga teacher’s eyes widened as my Little One went on about how her mommy was reading her Three Cups of Tea, all about this man who tried to climb K2 – the second highest mountain in the world – for his sister who died.  (That’s only just the beginning of the story, but we had just started reading it at that point and that was pretty much where we were).

My daughter amazed us both that day.  Her yoga teacher was blown away that this little 5-year old knew about Three Cups of Tea and I was blown away that she had …

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A Must Read for 2009

Have you heard about what is happening in our economy lately?  Have you heard the recent predictions from the leading economic and financial experts?  Are you aware the mortgage and housing crisis is due to get worse?  Do you know the HUGE storm lurking on our horizon is with credit cards and it is already starting to hit?  Unemployment numbers are due to RISE for at least the next two years.  The downturn is predicted to continue through 2009 AND 2010.  No turn-around is anticipated anytime in the near future!  None of the many experts dispute any of this. 

2009 needs to be the year of living consciously.  I don't know your situation, but to think that you will not be affected in some way is foolish.  So what can you do?  Stay awake – aware – conscious.  Don't hide your head or live in denial that you will be untouched.  Be proactive.  Get as much as information as …

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