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What to do with an Audacious Idea?

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My best friend just emailed me with an audacious idea:  she wants us to start training for a mini-triathlon. Never mind she is living on one side of the country and I’m on the other.  Never mind that neither one of us are exercising currently (a polite way of saying it).  Never mind that I don’t swim (I mean, I can – just not very well – again, another understatement) and my idea of a bike ride is a LEISURELY ride in the neighborhood with the kids.  My friend is excited, really excited, about the idea and all I can think is:  is she out of her blooming mind??!!!!

Interesting what we do when faced with a proposition such as this one.  This Zen Mama Wannabe finds myself rapidly searching for the exits – you know, the easy way out.  What about doing a half-marathon I suggest.  That sounds too daunting to her; a mini-triathlon is just doing a little bit of a few things, to her anyway.  I have done a half-marathon before (in the Rocky Mountains no less) so that sounds doable to me; a lot of work to get in shape for – yes, but not scary (no, make that terrifying) like a triathlon seems.

Then I think, she is excited – this is something she is pumped up to do.  It is a good goal for her to challenge herself with, and honestly it is much more than just training for a race.  It is about putting herself first for a change.  It is a way to force herself to get in better shape, to feel good about her 40-something year old body, to carve out time in the day just for her, to put her mind on working toward doing this and then actually doing it!  It is about empowerment of the greatest kind.

All of that I too need so desperately in my life.  I don’t question or waver on whether SHE should do this, but I cannot help but wonder if I really need to do it too.  It is HER goal, her excitement, not mine.  Maybe what I need to do is be a supportive friend – the loudest voice on the sidelines, but yes, there on the sidelines – NOT sweating my butt off in the actual race.

My husband seems to agree; the last thing we need right now is for me to get “sidetracked” with something like this.  We have so much going on in our lives right now, so many things to take care of and tend to.  (I wonder, does everyone feel this way?)  We’re not getting the stuff done that is on our list right now – much less adding a training schedule to it.  He too provides me with an easy out – not quite sure why instead of being reassuring, it annoys me just a bit.

Fear and avoidance make horrible bedfellows – they take over if you let them.  I do love a challenge (most of the time).  I do need to start exercising on a regular basis.  I do need to do something healthy for me.  And I would love to show my kids that anyone can set a goal (especially an audacious one like this one), work hard and see it through.

I’d better be careful….sounds like I am almost talking myself into this.



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2 Responses to “What to do with an Audacious Idea?”

  1. callieandbatido Says:
    August 24th, 2010 at 10:35 am

    You should go for it and keep us posted on your progress! Who knows, maybe a few fellow readers may be interested in joining too.

    There are ALWAYS good reasons not to do something…I can list at least 100 of why I am not exercising regularly. But even thinking of my top 10 reasons makes me realize my excuses are all about someone else. What I have to do for someone else. Not one of my reasons is because I am to busy doing something else fun or rewarding for myself. Shows where I put myself on my list of importance.

    Maybe your friend is onto something.

  2. Sterling Samu Says:
    August 27th, 2010 at 3:59 am

    Great post. Thanks!

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