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Getting Back in the Saddle – Again

It has happened to all of us at one time or another.  We’ve been working hard on doing something on a regular basis, sticking with it, making it part of our routine – and then WHAM! – “It” happens (whatever “it” is that throws us off course) and suddenly we find ourselves back at square one.  Having to start all over – again.  AGH!  It is enough to make you want to give up right then and there.  So, what do you do?  When it has happened to you, how did you (or did you) get back up in the saddle again?

We usually think of this happening with exercise plans or diets we start, but it is really true with ANY goal we are working toward.  We work so hard at following the plan (1,200 calories a day; 5 work outs a week; whatever it is).  Perhaps we even start seeing some results.  We are feeling motivated.  Things are looking good.  We are on track.  No sooner do we think that then Life gets involved.  Perhaps to test our resolve.  Perhaps to see how we handle a curve ball or two.  Perhaps just because that is how Life goes for the majority of us.

Usually something happens.  Company or clients are in town — meaning bigger, heavier dinners and more food around than you normally would have.  A sudden overload of meetings you have to attend that cut into your normal workout time – and your day is such that that was the only substantial “free” block of time you had.  One meal blown or workout missed is no big deal.  But have this happen a couple times in a row and you start finding your momentum is gone too.

If we can catch it there, and jump back in the saddle right at that moment, we can usually salvage it.  But so many of us get discouraged.  The number of the scale is now higher than before.  The gym no longer feels like the place you want to go when the alarm clock goes off.  The spinning class that used to kick your butt when you were attending consistently, you now feel you wouldn’t survive for the even first 15 minutes.  It gets depressing.  You think to yourself, “I’ve already missed doing ______ for the last 5 days.  It’s not like one more little day is gonna matter.”  But it DOES matter.  We know that, really.  Yet 5 days turns into 6, then 7, and it just gets THAT much harder to get back on track.

I’m going through this right now (and I’ve gone through it so many times in the past with so many different things that you would think I could write the book on it)!  This time for me it is with writing.  I have my goals of what I want to write and how much and how often – and I’ve lost my momentum.  I’ve fallen of the proverbial horse, and quite honestly can’t seem to even be able to FIND the dang thing to climb back up on.  Think it left me in the dust and is back at the stable now, munching on hay and carrots.  It is probably thinking, “When you’re serious about riding, come find me.  ‘Till then, I’ve got better things to do.”  (I hate having a lippy horse.)

Well, one thing about a Zen Mama Wannabe is they do not give up.  I will make it back to the stable.  I will get back on that horse.  I will ride away into the sunset. (Hey maybe that is my problem….I like all my dreams to have happy endings).  But I wonder, when you are ready to try again, do you just GO FOR IT (you know, dive right in all gung-ho) or do you ease back into it with some baby steps?  I wonder what proves to be more effective?

Sometime I believe you just have to shake things up.  But sometimes ANYTHING (even just a little something) can be the catalyst to get you back in the groove.  Not following a diet word-for-word but just cutting out the glass of wine with dinner or the bowl of ice cream for dessert.  Not trying to do the 3.5-mile run each morning but just getting out and walking for 20 minutes a day.  Not cleaning out and reorganizing the entire garage, but just going out and working on it for 20 minutes at a time.  You start to make progress.  You start to (albeit slowly) see results.  You start to get motivated.  Don’t look now but you are starting to get your momentum back.  Of course getting and keeping are two different things – but hey, let’s take this one step at a time.  I’m still trying to get back to my horse!

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3 Responses to “Getting Back in the Saddle – Again”

  1. LarkLady Says:
    April 28th, 2009 at 12:29 pm

    It depends how long it is before you try to get back up on whatever horse you fell off of as to whether you pick up where you left off or go back and regroup a bit. Trying to resume at the level you had worked up to when you fell off may be too much at first — the frustration of not being able to make it may discourage you from trying a third time.
    Re-examining your goals after falling off is a good idea, before you jump back on. What were the factors that were working against you that made you fall off? Have you done anything to overcome those or to change the circumstances? If not, aren’t you just as liable to fall off again?
    Sometimes we attempt unreasonable if not impossible goals and then are surprised when things don’t work out. What support did you have in place when you first got on that horse? Do you need something more before you jump back on?
    But once you’ve analyzed it all, look that horse in the eye, grab the reins and go for it! Because the longer you delay, the harder it is to climp back up.
    Giddyup! Get going!

  2. callieandbatito Says:
    May 3rd, 2009 at 11:15 am

    I too have fallen off my horse more times than I care to count let alone remember. I agree with LarkLady that when we fall off it is a good time to take a deep breath and re-examine the goal and why we think we fell off in the first place. It is so easy to just try to pick up where I left off only to find myself out of the saddle once again.
    I tend to be an all or nothing personality when it comes to my goals. It works wonders when I am in my “all” phase but is pretty discouraging when I am in my “none” stage. I am struggling to find a balance between the two. Because let’s face it, we need balance to keep ourselves in the saddle.

  3. Danna Says:
    May 5th, 2009 at 11:00 am

    I laughed out loud, very funny, hate having a lippy horse.

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