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5 Steps to Becoming A+

School is about to start…new books to read, new things to learn….for ME, I mean.  Lately this Zen Mama Wannabe has been feeling like my parenting skills need a overhaul refresher course.  What do I do when I get a bit down about things like this  —  when my character flaws, my permanent wannabe status, leads me to feel so far away from the mom I REALLY want to be?

  1. I beat myself up a bit.  An important step, I think, as long as you don’t wallow in it.  Admit to yourself you are not where you want to be.
  2. Educate yourself.  Before you know which diet to go on, for example,
    you need to research the various ones to find the best match for you.
    So many people eliminate or avoid this step, yet I feel it is a crucial
    one.  How can you devise a plan without all the facts/information?  Go
    to your toolbox and figure out the tools you need to help you with
  3. Create your plan of attack.  If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over yet expecting a different result, then what will you do that is different? What do you want to achieve – specifically?  What are you going to change from what you are doing – or not doing – right now?  And how are you going to do it?
  4. Be like Nike: JUST DO IT.  You have a plan, great.  But again, nothing will change until you actually DO SOMETHING.
  5. Re-evaluate as needed.  Check in with yourself after a certain period of time.  How are you doing?  Are you happy with your results thus far?  Do you need to adjust your plan of attack or are you on the right course?  Are you seeing results?  If not, why?  You may need to go back to Step 3 and make some adjustments.  Was your goal over-ambitious? Unrealistic?

If your goal is fine but you are not doing Step 4, then ask yourself the same question:  why?  Why aren’t you doing it?  What is getting in your way?  How can you fix that?

Ultimately, it is up to you.  Nobody can (or wants to) do it for you.  Decide to change something – or decide to stick with the status quo; either way, it is YOUR choice.

There are some things I want to change — well, a lot of them, quite frankly — but I have to prioritize and right now I want to get my parenting skills in check.  I feel like I am operating at the “C” level, when where I want to be is in the “A” range.  Feels like I’m being only average when that is not where I really belong.  I have been an A+ parent before and that’s what I’m shooting for now.

Some may argue it is impossible to stay at A+ for a long period of time, but I’m not going to have someone talk me into mediocrity.  Why should I accept less than what I know I can be?  I don’t expect to be A+ all the time; what I expect is to be in the A range (+ or -) the majority of the time.  It’s important to me.  If my “job” is being a stay-at-home mom then I need to feel like I am at the top of my game, not just getting by being average.  Who strives to be average?  Certainly not this Zen Mama Wannabe.

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One Response to “5 Steps to Becoming A+”

  1. callieandbatido Says:
    August 26th, 2008 at 2:00 pm

    I think we all want to be A+ parents. But how do we balance real life with the ideal one we have in our heads? What makes us A+ parents? Never loosing our tempers, always being ready and willing to listen to another story, read another book, always putting them first? I think we are all “C” parents from time to time and that is okay.

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